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How to Unapologetically Attack & Achieve Your Goals!

July 17, 2020

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No apologies here, we cover everything from “I’m sorry” to “I can do it,” and that’s precisely where you fit in. This blog post (albeit a long one ) will show you how to go out there and unapologetically attack & achieve your goals, sans the apologies!


Have you heard the expression, “Sorry, not sorry”? Maybe you’ve used it once or twice. We can all thank singer Demi Lovato for coining the phrase, but it’s something we all have inside of us – deep, deep down.

It may feel unnatural to be unapologetic. After all, we tend to live our lives at the mercy of others, seeking to please everyone else so that we can feel liked. 

We easily adopt the “I’m sorry” mentality, which leads us to believe we need to apologise for being who we are.

Apologising out of respect is one thing. Sometimes you need to own up to your actions and apologise when it is warranted.

Other times, though, apologising gets in the way of who you are.

It can create a false sense of self-deprecation, and it can derail your motivation to do great things and be proud of yourself.

It’s important to make the distinction between these two types of apologies.

One type is humbling and kind. The other is damaging to your own success.

Think about it this way: How would you react if one of your friends apologised for a huge accomplishment? You probably would tell them it’s unnecessary. Your small but frequent apologies are a microcosm of that example.

What makes you any better than that person if you apologise for pursuing your dreams? Or for working hard and getting a promotion instead of your coworker? Nothing! Your goals, dreams, and ambitions are commendable, so you shouldn’t let anyone get in the way.

You’re unstoppable, unapologetic, and unrelenting.

As you step through life, you’ll learn how to push the apologies aside – while keeping your etiquette and kindness intact. And we’ll cover that in this article/guide.

In fact, we’ll help you speed up the process by telling you why it’s crucial to unapologetically pursue your dreams, how to do it, and how it will impact your life. You’ll be unapologetic in no time!

By no means is this guide a recipe for becoming a jerk. You can be kind and unapologetic – these are not mutually exclusive. Ready to retire all your unnecessary apologies from your vocabulary?

Read on!

You Deserve the Things You Want – Achieve Your Goals

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Think about the word “deserve.” Go ahead.

Let it roll off the tongue. Let it settle into your brain a little.

We use this word regularly. Not sure if you do?

Take a look at these instances and think about how many times you’ve said or heard one of these lines:

“I don’t deserve that.”

“He doesn’t deserve her.”

“If you think I’m deserving of it.”

“I wish I deserved something like that.”

In that context, “deserve” doesn’t sound very positive and uplifting.

That’s true because in all those cases, “deserve” was referred to as an unreachable thing as if you have to be a certain person to deserve something.

Are you not that person?

You are! Everyone is that person!

Everyone deserves the things they want in life.

You have one life to live, so it seems fair that you should be able to live it the way you want, right?

Here’s the catch: Things don’t just fall into your lap. To “deserve” something, it takes some work. There’s nothing wrong with that, though. It’s actually really gratifying to earn something as a byproduct of your hard work.

But first, you need to flip around the way you look at deserving things. You do deserve what you want. You will need to work for it, but you do deserve it.

Begin with your thoughts -Achieve Your Goals

What you think about is what you become.

That big, old brain of yours is excellent at confusing itself, but it’s also great at training itself. If you train yourself to think a certain way (with positivity and motivation), you will act this way.

Regarding what you deserve in life, train your mind to think of it in a good way.

Teach yourself that you deserve what you want. You deserve to achieve your dreams and goals.

Setbacks will happen, and failure is inevitable, but that doesn’t mean you need to believe that you don’t deserve the life you have imagined for yourself. It’s a matter of picking up the pieces and getting back to your core.

Your foundation. Your belief system. And all these elements of YOU should be treated with respect by YOU.

The secret to respecting yourself is reminding yourself that you do deserve what you want in life.

You can achieve your goals, and even if it takes twice as long as you thought it would, your hard work and driven mindset will trump anything that could get in the way.

There’s a little voice in your head that loves saying the word no. It screams it at the top of its lungs, and it hangs it over you like a dark, looming cloud of doom.

That same voice is capable of saying yes. It wants to say yes, but every time it aims for yes and gets rejected, it reverts to its inclination toward doubt. We’re going to revisit the topic of training your mind here because while you tell your mind to grant you permission to aim high, you need to tell your mind to say yes more.

You can control how much positivity circulates in your head. It takes training and time, but once you are on an uphill trajectory, the positivity creates a domino effect – and it’s pretty hard to get rid of. That’s a great problem to have, though! Optimism is contagious, so pick a solid starting point, and get to work on that positivity.

When you tell yourself you can do it, you will believe that you can do more. Your triumphant mindset will meet the dreaded habit of settling, and you will conquer it. No longer will you settle for “Is this as good as it gets?” but instead, you’ll be shooting for the best – and nothing less.

Hunt the Good -Achieve Your Goals

Believe it or not, a lot of people hold themselves back from hunting the good. This is when the apology comes into play. If we’re doing well at something or we feel particularly lucky, it feels almost unbelievable that we’re in a fortunate situation. It feels unbelievable that we deserve what we’re getting.

Are you seeing a pattern here?

You work for what you want, you deserve what you get, and you can continue to hunt for bigger and better from there.

When you find yourself falling into the trap of convincing yourself that you don’t deserve to receive the good, remind yourself of your hard work.

Soon enough, you’ll get to the point where you want to shout about your success at the top of your lungs. You’ll be proud, happy, and excited.

Most importantly, you’ll genuinely believe that you are destined for good things. And you’ll embark on an unstoppable journey towards that good.

Once you capture the good, you’ll look for excellent. Once you reach great, you’ll shoot for the gold.

Time to Stop

Stop? That doesn’t make sense! We’re supposed to be moving forward.

No one wins the race without a recharge periodically.

When you’re unapologetically chasing your dreams, stopping points are absolutely necessary – but not quite as literally as you may be thinking.

Sure, you do need a recharge every once and a while, but there are some other “stops” to incorporate into your journey – the habits that are holding you back.

Stop Worrying About What Others Think of You

Who are you apologising to?

Are you saying “I’m sorry” because you don’t want other people to hate you or judge you? Or are you saying, “I’m sorry” because you believe you did something wrong?

Let’s do a quick test to see if you’re worrying too much about what other people think.

-You don’t always speak your mind because you’re afraid of what other people may think of you.

-You often feel like people are mad at you or upset with you. You don’t even have a reason to believe this, but you have a suffocating feeling that you’ve made people mad.

-You say yes when you don’t really want to do something, out of fear that if you don’t, people won’t like you.

-The thought of doing something different or attention-grabbing is really daunting. You don’t want to make a statement that people may disagree with.

-There’s a group of people that you try to avoid because you feel like they may not like you, or they may judge you.

-You’re often asking for approval before making a big decision. In fact, you hate making decisions because you’re afraid that your opinion will not agree with everyone else’s.

-You sometimes diminish your opinions or efforts in case people don’t like what you do.

-Were you nodding your head at any of those points?

The solution is simple, though not easy.

Stop worrying about it. People will talk and judge and react, but the world will continue to spin. The results of your efforts will not be immediate. It takes time to stop caring about the opinions of others.

Begin by figuring out why you care.  You can examine the things that you care about most, whether it’s the way you dress, your work ethic, how much money you make, or how you socialize. It could be about your social media profile or your significant other.

Whatever it is, there are certain things that you care about more than others, and that’s a direct reflection of why you care about what others think.

Once you’ve established the “what” and the “why,” take time to rid yourself of this habit. Every time you catch yourself thinking about the opinions of others, stop yourself and remember that you’re just getting wrapped up in it. In the big picture, it doesn’t matter.

Then, decide to be present. Be alone with yourself and find happiness with that time to yourself. 

Stop Saying You Aren’t Good Enough

Whether you’re saying you’re not good enough because you feel guilty or you simply don’t believe it, this is a habit you need to get rid of immediately.

But it’s easier said than done. We’ve all been there – self-pity is unavoidable occasionally. Don’t view it as a setback.

Instead, use it as motivation to get out of the funk and come back to believing that you are good enough.

The next time you feel like you’re not good enough, remind yourself of these things:

You’re operating on your own time zone

No one would do better at living your life than you, because no one else has experienced life the way you have.

You’re on your own time zone, and nobody else can get in the way of that. We all feel inclined to compare to others because it’s one of our only means of comparison. But it won’t do any good for you.

Comparing to others makes you feel worse about yourself, and in the long run, it keeps you from going after your goals.

Remember to start small

Sometimes the small things make the biggest waves.

Life comes in phases, so you may find yourself in a phase of feeling like you’re not good enough. That phase could potentially spin into self-deprecation and eventually a full-blown attack of unnecessary apologies.

Begin with the small things. Hang up a post-it note on your bathroom mirror reminding you of your most significant accomplishments. Or knock out a to-do list item and give yourself a pat on the back for getting it done.

Whatever it is that you need to do, take small steps to get there. And don’t beat yourself up for taking those small steps! They’re small but mighty.

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You’re working on yourself

While you’re unapologetically working toward your goals, work on yourself, too. Give yourself some TLC at least once a week. It’s a way of saying, “I’m worth this,” or as we discussed earlier, “I deserve this.”

Once you’re able to assure yourself that you are worth self-love and care, you’ll be able to carry out this mentality in every facet of your life – which will stop you from being too hard on yourself.

Recap everything you’ve been through

Up until this point, your life is a culmination of every experience you’ve had. It encompasses all the people you’ve met, things you’ve done, phases you’ve gone through, and troubles you’ve endured.

It’s easy to forget it, but you’ve been through a lot.

When you find yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” remind yourself that you are, and what you’ve conquered a lot in your lifetime.

Some things are easier than others, but in the grand scheme of things, you’ve made it far in your life. Don’t let the small setbacks bring you down!

Look! Here you are, trying

Despite everything you’ve gone through and everything you’re currently going through, you have the willpower to persevere. Although you may not consciously feel ready to conquer the day, your mindset is such that you are.

Making the decision to work hard is no small feat. When all else fails, you know that you have determination and grit on your side, and that deserves a big kudos to you. Don’t be hard on yourself or tell yourself that you could do better – you’re doing the very best you can do. In fact, you’re doing more than better. The fact that you want to improve is living proof that you’re doing a great job.

Stop Feeling Guilty for Success -Achieve Your Goals

Guilt first, apology later. Apologies come after believing you did something wrong – but that doesn’t always mean you actually committed a wrongdoing.

There’s a fine line between undermining your success and rubbing it in everyone’s face. In order to find that balance, you must break out of the mold of your crowd. From an evolutionary point of view, it makes sense why you’d feel guilty about succeeding. In primal times, it was important to fit in with the crowd, to follow the pack. Surpassing everyone else in the pack would make you stand out negatively.

Fast forward to present day, and we still feel bad when we stand out from others. Whether you feel guilty for defying societal norms and being a nonconformist or you apologize for your success, the bottom line is you should stop. You can still run with the pack in your own line. You can run with the pack and be at the front. Sometimes you’ll slip to the middle or maybe the back of the line. The critical thing to remember is that you can’t feel bad when you’re leading the pack or going in your own direction.

Stop Being Afraid

We’re going to talk about fear and success. These terms are not opposites, but they’re also not in the same ecosystem. They may coexist for you right now, but we’re going to put an end to that because fear and success don’t go hand in hand. It’s actually a parasitic dynamic between the two, and when fear finds a way to attach itself to success, it begins a downward spiral.

Let’s talk about fear first. Fear is a primal instinct. It’s a protection mechanism. We talk about it as if it’s a bad thing, but without it, we wouldn’t survive. Fear is what tells us to avoid danger and pain. So as much as we hate feeling jumpy after watching a scary movie, it ties us back to our primitive selves with the main focus of survival.

Moving onto success. Success is person dependent. It’s about setting goals for yourself and creating a vision that you’d like to execute. For some people, it may mean reaching the title of a billionaire, and for others, it could mean running a marathon. Whatever success means to you, the universal definition is that it is the “accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”

Zooming out a little, it seems like there’s no room for fear within the realm of success, but somehow, plenty of people squeeze it in. Here’s why: Success is personal, so it feels daunting at times. It makes you stand out, and it draws attention to you. People may judge you or say things about your accomplishments. Similarly, you may be resented by others who aren’t as happy about their accomplishments. So you penalize yourself for setting goals by instilling fear into your mentality.

This fear usually manifests in anxiety. You probably won’t feel scared like you do in a haunted house or when you’re watching a horror movie, but instead, you’ll feel anxious and stressed about your goals. Don’t beat yourself up about that; it’s normal. Instead, try out some of these ways to rid your mindset of fear and focus on your goals.

Become Aware

Get in touch with your feelings and notice when you’re expressing fear about something. Think about what’s holding you back. If you’re preparing for a big presentation and you feel nervous, try to tap into what’s really making you feel that way. It’s not because you’re proud; it’s because you’re afraid. Are you afraid of being successful? Are you afraid of what other people will think? Embark on a journey of self-exploration, and you will become more aware of who you are and what makes you tick.

Admit What Your Fears Are

Once you’re aware of all the things you’re afraid of (including how often you’re expressing fear or stress), admit it to yourself. It sounds daunting, but it’s actually cathartic. By acknowledging that you are afraid, you are forgiving yourself for feeling this way. If you don’t admit it, you’ll end up trying to hold back from who you really are and how you really feel. That doesn’t do any good for anyone!

Decide that You’re Tired of Feeling this Way

Just like a child decides they no longer want to drink from a bottle, you need to decide you want to stop being afraid. It may not happen overnight, but with the right mindset, you can put an end to the fear you’ve been feeling.

Take some time to put an end to your fears. Once you do, you’ll feel a weight lifted from your shoulders. We’re not done with the “stops,” though. You’re almost there!

Stop Negative Self-Talk

Okay, you’ve conquered your fears, and you’re not guilty anymore, but for some reason, that voice in your head is saying negative things! You’re talking to yourself as if you were your greatest critic, rather than your own cheerleader. You need to put an end to this.

What do you know about self-talk? Chances are, you talk to yourself all the time without even knowing it. It doesn’t have to be aloud. Self-talk is all of the noise that goes on in your head. Try to sit with yourself for a second in silence. Listen to the words circling around in your mind. These are your thoughts, and when they’re directed at yourself, it’s your self-talk.

Self-talk can be negative, positive, or neutral. It’s okay if your self-talk is neutral – sometimes that’s necessary. But your self-talk shouldn’t be negative. When it is, you hold yourself back from accomplishing big things, and in the long run, you become apologetic to yourself and others when you do achieve things.

Typically, negative self-talk begins with shame or doubt. If you don’t do something well or you feel like you failed, your self-talk goes from positive or neutral to negative. You become hard on yourself, and the vicious cycle begins.

The next time you find yourself wrapped up in a cycle of negative self-talk, take a pause. Stop it before it gets worse!

Stop Saying Sorry so Much

 After all these steps, you’re left with the obvious: Stop apologizing.

To touch on the not-so-obvious, let’s look at the science behind apologies. Apologizing has the potential to become a reflex. Like a sneeze or a simple “How are you?”, apologies become automatic over time. That means when you move past someone and say, “I’m sorry,” you’re not even processing what you’re sorry for, but your brain is doling out an apology anyway.

It may seem harmless, but by doing this, you’re convincing yourself that you have something to be sorry for. This starts a chain of events:

  • Apologize
  • Convince yourself you needed to apologize
  • Apologize repeatedly
  • Become unaware of your apologies, thus programming your brain into saying “I’m sorry” regularly
  • Your brain becomes convinced that you need to be sorry
  • Negative self-talk begins
  • You lose confidence in your abilities, and your self-worth diminishes
  • Over time, you lose motivation to aspire to do great things because you’re apologetic about it

Now, that chain of events is hyperbolized to make a point. Don’t worry – saying, “I’m sorry” during your day doesn’t mean you will go through this chain of events. With that said, it’s good to realise what could happen if it becomes too much of a habit. Aside from the possible fate of your apologising self, there are some other reasons why overusing “I’m sorry” could bring more harm than good.

You May Not be Respected as Much

When people hear apologies too much, they sense weakness and lack of self-awareness. It might make you come off as timid, which opens the door for people to step all over you.

It Lowers the Value of your Meaningful Apologies

It’s like the boy who cried wolf, but instead, the person who over-apologized. If you say sorry for every little thing, it doesn’t mean as much when you actually want to apologize. There will probably be a time when you genuinely feel sorry about something, but if others are used to hearing you say sorry, it won’t carry as much meaning.

People May Get Annoyed

People won’t get mad at you for apologizing when you mean it, but they might get annoyed if you say it all the time. Let’s look at an example of a dinner party. First, you apologize for being late. Then, you apologize for the food you brought. You’re nervous that people won’t like it, so you decide to cover your bases with another “I’m sorry.” When it comes time to decide what movie to watch, you cast your vote and apologize for having weird taste in movies. At this point, your friends might be irritated. They’ll wonder why you’re apologizing for so many things. In this scenario, apologizing for being late is totally acceptable. In fact, that’s what you should do. But the other apologies are excessive. You should never be apologizing for who you are or what you choose.

After all of that, you probably don’t love the idea of over-apologizing, do you? Perhaps you realized that you apologize for more than you think you do.

It’s hard to break the habit of apologizing a lot, so if you find yourself wrapped up in it, try some of these ways to break it.

Delineate Between What You Should and Should not Apologise for

As discussed in the dinner party example, some apologies are warranted. Others? Not so much. Here are some things you should not apologize for:

  • Minor and honest mistakes
  • Other people’s mistakes
  • Your opinions and beliefs
  • Your interests
  • Your choices
  • Your life
  • Something that you can’t control
  • A situation that you aren’t involved in

Do you see a common theme here? If it’s something that is out of your control or it pertains to your life, there’s no need to apologize. You don’t owe anyone an apology for being who you are. With that said, if being who you are is hurting others or doing bad things, then you need to rethink that part of you. There’s no excuse for that, and if that’s the case, you do owe people some apologies.

Find a New Way to Apologise

This is a great way to be conscious of how often you say sorry. Make an effort to replace “I’m sorry” with something else. Instead of saying, “Sorry for the long presentation,” try, “Thanks for listening!” Or instead of saying, “I’m sorry I haven’t called in a while,” say, “I’m glad we’re finally able to catch up!”

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You’ll find that this is two-fold. First, you’ll decrease the number of times you say sorry because you’re replacing the phrase with something else. Second, you’ll notice just how often you say it. You’ll become more aware of your habit, which will help you work on it.

Learn how to say no

If you have a hard time saying no because you’re afraid of upsetting someone, you may have the classic case of the yes man syndrome. This may seem completely unrelated to apologizing, but the two are connected in more ways than you might think.

Saying no is scary because you don’t want to make anyone mad. You want to be able to please everyone, even if that means stretching out your time and going past your bandwidth to make others happy. Hence, yes, man syndrome.

Try to get comfortable with saying no when you can’t do something. Don’t feel bad about it, and don’t apologise. Instead, say, “I won’t be able to do that today, but I’d love to help next week.”

Time to Start – Achieve Your Goals

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Once you’ve conquered all the habits that are getting in the way of you, your goals, and your unapologetic self, it’s time to kick some great habits into high gear. As you attack your goals unapologetically, you’ll run into setbacks here and there. Keep your chin up and remember your “why.” Don’t let anyone get in your way – begin with these steps.

 Set Goals that Scare You

Go big or go home! Some goals are scarier than others. Those big goals that seem impossible? Those are the scary ones. The reason why is that we’re not ready to take on those goals yet. The person you are right now is different from the person you will be once you’re taking on those goals. So it may seem daunting, but you will grow and develop as you tackle these goals – and by that time, you’ll be able to achieve them.

Begin with one goal that intimidates you. It doesn’t have to be something intense like learning how to skydive or backpacking the world. But it should be something that you’re excited about working toward – something that is in line with your ultimate life goals.

You’ll go from there. Once you tackle one big goal, you’ll want more. You’ll begin to see a pattern that each time you gear yourself up for a scary purpose, you grow as a person. You learn more about yourself, and you change for the better. Sure, you’ll have some bumps along the road. Anything with risk has bumps along the way! But with greater risk (setting lofty goals, for example) comes more significant accomplishments.

 Embrace the Things You Love

Typically, our goals reflect who we are and what we love to do. Think about it this way: If you love fashion, but you don’t have as much of a passion for sports, you probably won’t set goals that revolve around your athletic abilities. Your goals coincide with your interests.

In that case, it’s essential to embrace what you love to do. Go after those interests of yours and pursue them relentlessly. It will be much easier to set goals for yourself from there, and when you’re working toward goals for things you love to do, you’ll be less inclined to apologise for them.

Be Unapologetically Yourself

Being unapologetically yourself means accepting yourself. It means taking time to learn more about who you want to be – being graceful about how you change throughout life. Change is inevitable, so don’t try to avoid it. Instead, embrace it as a constant. As you change, you add new things to your personality and your bank of experiences. Don’t apologize for that – embrace it!

To be yourself without apologizing for it, you need to be able to be yourself when you’re alone. You need to be able to embrace who you are. See, the reason why it’s hard to be true to ourselves is that we were taught from a very young age that we needed to be something different. We’re so focused on fitting in and meeting society’s standards that we lose who we really are. We’re trying to keep up with the trends and say and do what is deemed cool – all of that adds up, and we get lost.

It takes some time to reverse this, but it’s absolutely worth it in the long run. Once you get in touch with the real you and you allow yourself to embody that person fully, you will stop apologising to yourself. That’s step one! The next step, of course, is to stop apologising to others. It’s nearly impossible to do this step without completing step one first, so it’s vital that you spend time to yourself first.

Build a Support System that Doesn’t Hold You Back

It’s a lot easier to chase your goals when you have a group of people cheering you along the way. Reach out to your friends and family and tell them about your efforts. Let them know that you’re setting big goals for yourself and that you want to stop apologising for your ambition.

Another great source of support is through the help of a mentor. You may find a mentor organically (like a boss or older friend), or you may decide to seek one out on your own. There are plenty of community programs that offer mentorship opportunities. Having a mentor gives you guidance and help in areas that you haven’t navigated on your own before. A mentor is someone who has been through similar situations and can shed some light on your life. Take this help, and don’t be sorry for it. You deserve it – everyone does!

If you find yourself apologizing a lot more often to a certain group of friends, you may be in a sticky social situation. You may be feeling sorry because you’re with a group of people that brings you down. While you’re building your support system, take a look at the people you’re surrounded by. This is a great time to decide if you’re spending time with people who don’t lift you up – and if that’s the case, move on and embark on your journey without them!

Focus on Your Needs

There’s a difference between only focusing on yourself and focusing on yourself first. It’s perfectly okay to put yourself first. On the flip side, only concentrating on yourself tends to lead you down a pathway of selfishness, which isn’t so great. Let’s focus on putting yourself first.

You are the only person you are with 100% of the time. Sound confusing? It’s actually simple. You spend a lot of time (hint: ALL of your time) by yourself, so self-focus is a great thing. You need to prioritize your needs.

There’s an underlying notion that being selfish is bad. A person who is described as selfish is frowned upon and viewed as being greedy or not caring enough about others.

In reality, you can care about others and yourself at the same time. How are you possibly able to care about others without caring about yourself? That would be like expecting you to teach someone how to read without learning how to read on your own first. If you don’t put your needs first, you won’t be able to give anything your all.

Begin with you, and the rest will fall into place.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Goals require focus, which requires healthy boundaries. Without boundaries, you’ll never have an idea of when enough is enough. Similarly, without boundaries, you’ll never know how far you can push yourself.

The world is vast, and life is longer than we think it is. If we don’t set boundaries, we could have so many goals that we’d be too overwhelmed to take on any of them.

There’s a famous excerpt from Sylvia Plath’s novel, The Bell Jar.  In this excerpt, the narrator is sitting underneath a fig tree, and she’s looking at all of the branches above her. She studies each branch and admires the figs at the end of each of the branches. With each branch, she sees an opportunity – a possible life path for her to take. On one branch, she sees her fate as a doctor. On another, she is a professor. One branch shows her life as a mother and another as an athlete. The list goes on and on, but as she continues to admire all of the possibilities life has to offer, the figs begin to fall to the ground, one by one.

They continue to fall, and when they hit the ground, they become shriveled. In other words, each fig that hits the ground symbolizes a pathway that is no longer an opportunity for her.

This story is an excellent reminder for us to set healthy, realistic boundaries for ourselves. It’s great to be excited about opportunities in life, especially when you’re setting goals for yourself, but it’s essential to be realistic about them. Don’t let all of your figs fall to the ground – set boundaries for yourself and decide which ones to go after!

Take Chances

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Sometimes, it’s a swing and a miss, but wouldn’t that be better than never stepping up to bat?

Take it from Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook, who said, “The only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” Stability is great, but it grows tedious after a while. You can only take so much of the same thing before realizing you’re no longer inspired by your life.

A life of inspiration comes from taking chances. Whether it’s a big chance like investing in a risky company or a smaller chance like trying out a new workout class, it’s something that will push you to be a better you. And while you’re comfortable with who you are, you can always be better. We all can!

You’re not sorry for being you, and you’re not sorry for chasing your dreams. In fact, you have every right to be proud of your hard work. While you’re at it, take a chance. Set a lofty goal for yourself and try to accomplish it. It may not work out, but it will enable you to change and grow as a person.


First stop: Shooting for the stars. Along the way, you’ll meet tons of people, see different places, and learn a lot about your place in the world.

Don’t expect things to happen right away. We all have room to improve when it comes to apologies. “I’m sorry” is an overused expression, and we could all be working toward getting it out of our daily vocabularies.

But this is about you. This is your journey toward your dreams – not anyone else’s. So while it’s great to reach out to a support network, find a mentor, and look to role models for inspiration, it comes down to you. These people will help you along the way, and that’s a beautiful thing, but at the end of the day, your goals begin with you.

The next time you find yourself saying, “I’m sorry,” take a minute to think about it. After everything you’ve learned about apologies, you may view it in a different light. There’s nothing to apologise for when you’re attacking your dreams and contributing more good to this world!

Start small with your apologies and work up to the ultimate goal of being unapologetically you.

Are you ready? The answer is yes!

No apologies here, we’ve covered everything from “I’m sorry” to “I can do it,” and that’s precisely where you fit in. Go out there and conquer your dreams, sans the apologies!

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